Patience is the most important and the single most lacked quality in today’s world. How important it is to be patient cannot be stressed enough. So first let us understand what patience means and I quote
” Patience with family is Love. Patience with others is Respect. Patience with self is Confidence. Patience with God is Faith “
The above quote gives a perspective definition for patience. What I believe the true meaning of Patience isn’t the ability to wait for something to happen but it is the way one behaves while waiting for it. Patience is when you have given your 100% to something and are awaiting great results. It is easily mistaken as waiting for something to happen without really working for it.
Life these days has become so fast paced that people think they do not have time to wait for anything. If anything makes us wait even for a minute people tend to get frustrated, they lose their temper, their cool. That has affected the way we work, the way we think. They want to start a new business and become successful in it overnight, want everyone to like them the first day of college or the first day of a new job, want instant gratification, want a super fast internet, want others to behave exactly how they want them to.
Common-folk cannot really be blamed for this. Technology, social media, smartphones, all have played their roles in making people impatient. We post something on social media for instant validation or commendation, we keep checking it every now and then to see how many people have liked and commented on our post. Smartphones with higher RAM and processor capabilities becoming cheap is also leading to shorter wait times for any actions the users are performing. We use lightening fast internet for video calls so that talking to someone halfway around the world is just as seamless as talking to someone right there with you.
This leads to people expecting everything to work smoothly and perfectly at the first go and the fact that at least few of your friends would be on social media at any point in time to like your posts is also disrupting ones expectation model.
I could go on and on about patience but I think it is better to explain with real world examples. Here are a few situations and how people usually react to them and how, with more patience, they should be reacting to them:
- Patience with parents:Our parents have given their entire life taking care of us and yet we get annoyed and irritated by the slightest things they do against our will. We must remember while we are getting older, they also are getting old. So naturally they are going to do things we might not like them doing. Be patient with them, listen to them, help them out adjust to this always online world. So the next time they ask how to do something that is troubling them with their laptop, phone or social media account, listen to them carefully and help them out. They weren’t brought up with anything close to this kind of technology.
- Patience with spouseA huge pitfall all of us succumb to at one time or another is wanting our spouse to be exactly how we want them to be or behave. Remember, you both are different people with different wants, habits, behavior patterns. Do not try and make them another version of you unless you are willing to become another version of them. If at all there is something you want them to improve at, give them time, help them out, support them instead of getting annoyed or frustrated.
- Patience with friends: Each and every one of your friends has a huge part of their life you are not aware of. The next time a friend is late for a get-together or a movie instead of getting mad at them for being late, ask why they were late and try to understand from their perspective. No one, mark my words, no one likes to keep their friends waiting on purpose.
- Patience with colleagues: When a colleague makes an error while executing a project, talk to them and try to understand why it happened instead of playing the blame game which is ubiquitous at workplaces these days. Not everyone has the same grasping power, not everyone has the same level of focus. Not like you never made any mistake yourself.
- Patience with work: If everyone was successful at everything they did, what a world would we be living in. Anything you do takes patience, persistence, practice and a lot of work before you can achieve. So if you are trying to do or learn something at work and it isn’t happening for you, give it time, there is no problem without a solution.
- Patience with others while traveling: This might be specific to Metro cities as there are a lot of vehicles on the roads in them at any time of the day. When I see people traveling and how they behave while doing it, it saddens me. There is an absence of any patience in them. Doesn’t matter if you are walking, on a bike, in a car or in a bus, no one wants to wait for someone else to pass by. No one tolerates even a slight push which might not be the fault of anyone. This is something we definitely need to improve upon. Now a days we are traveling for multiple hours daily and these hours could define how the rest of our day will go. So be careful and be courteous, let someone else pass, it will not kill you.
Points to take away :
- Be patient with yourself
- Be patient with your parents, spouse, friends, colleagues, etc.
- Be courteous when traveling
- Nothing sustainable was ever built overnight, keep trying and keep waiting
Points to Ponder :
- Imagine a world where everyone is courteous to everyone else.
- Imagine how awesome life would be if you learned the art of patience
Let me know what are your thoughts in the comments below.
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